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Is sex before marriage okay if you love each other?
No, sex before
marriage is sinful even if you love each other. Being in love
doesn't alter the reality that the sexual act is outside of marriage,
marriage being the ceremonial union of a man and woman in matrimony.
Sex outside of marriage is called fornication and the Bible definitely
condemns it.
- Matt. 15:19-20, "For out of the
heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts,
false witness, slanders. 20 “These are the things which
defile the man."
- Acts 15:29, "...that you
abstain from things sacrificed to idols and from blood and from
things strangled and from fornication; if you keep yourselves free
from such things, you will do well."
- 1 Cor. 6:9-10, "Or do you not
know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do
not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers,
nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the
covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit
the kingdom of God."
- Heb. 13:4, "Let marriage be
held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for
fornicators and adulterers God will judge."
So, very clearly fornication is condemned in
scripture and there is no provision for it being acceptable just because
someone loves each other. Besides if this couple is so much in
love, then why don't they carry out what true love is and marry each
other? True love is when you put another person first, not when
you take from them. For a
man and woman to engage in fornication is to declare that such love for
the other person is more self centered, than other centered.
See "What do I do if I have committed sexual sin?"
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