Is oral sex wrong between married couples okay?
The Bible makes no clear mention of oral sex at
all. Therefore, it is difficult to produce an official biblical
position. Nevertheless, based on the information that follows oral
sex is not sinful and that it is permissible only within the bonds
of marriage between a husband and wife.
The book Song of Solomon is a love poem between a
husband and wife. This book is seen in two senses: physical
love and a description of God's love for His church. Either way,
the book definitely encourages a husband and wife to enjoy the sexual
pleasures of one another. It is in this beautiful book that two
scriptures appear which may shed light on the issue of oral sex.
Let's take a look.
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Song 2:3,
"Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my
beloved among the young men. In his shade I took great delight and
sat down, and his fruit was sweet to my taste."
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Song 4:16,
"Awake, O north wind, and come, wind of the south; make my garden
breathe out fragrance. Let its spices be wafted abroad. May my
beloved come into his garden and eat its choice fruits!”
Notice in
Song 2:3 that it says, "...and his
fruit was sweet to my taste." Obviously this involves very
intimate experience. Tasting one another can have a wide variety
of applications. It appears that this is a veiled way of alluding
to oral sex. Furthermore, if we look at
Song 7:7 we read, “I said, ‘I will
climb the palm tree. I will take hold of its fruit stalks.’
Oh, may your breasts be like clusters of the vine."
Apparently, fondling of the breasts is meant here. If such
enjoyment of the body is intended, and since tasting (which involves the
mouth) is part of that expression, it would seem safe to say that oral
sex is permissible.
What does it mean to eat the choice fruits of his garden in
4:16?
She is saying that she is "his garden" and that she desires that he eat
of her fruit.
The poetic use of metaphors in describing the physical
relationship is sometimes hard to fully apprehend, but it seems obvious
from the context that intimate sexual union is implied.
"The beloved’s request that the winds blow
on her garden, that is, herself (cf. vv. 12, 15) was a delicate,
poetically beautiful invitation to her lover to fully possess her
(come into her). She wished to be his with her charms as available
as fruit on a tree." 1
Therefore, oral sex is
permissible between a husband and wife.
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1. Walvoord, John F., and Zuck, Roy B., The Bible
Knowledge Commentary, (Wheaton, Illinois: Scripture Press Publications,
Inc.) 1983, 1985.
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